Saturday, April 28, 2012

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator - I'm ENFP

2 years back I was ISFJ, when time flies, things changed, growing after facing a lot of life challenges, last year, I was ISFP, now, I am an ENFP person. It's quite accurate to describe me now though. :) This is me. Welcome in knowing me...
 

 Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving (ENFP)


ENFPs are both "idea"-people and "people"-people, who see everyone and everything as part of a cosmic whole. They want to both help and to be liked and admired by other people, on both an individual and a humanitarian level. This is rarely a problem for the ENFP, as they are outgoing and warm, and genuinely like people. Some ENFPs have a great deal of zany charm, which can ingratiate them to more stodgy types in spite of their unconventionality.

ENFPs often have strong, if sometimes surprising, values and viewpoints. They tend to try to use their social skills and contacts to persuade others gently (though enthusiastically) of the rightness of these views; this sometimes results in the ENFP neglecting their nearest and dearest while caught up their efforts to change the world.

ENFPs can be the warmest, kindest, and most sympathetic of mates; affectionate, demonstrative, and spontaneous. Many in relationships with an ENFP literally say, "They light up my life." But there is usually a trade-off: the partner must be willing to deal with the practical and financial aspects of the relationship, and the ENFP must be allowed the freedom to follow their latest path, whatever that entails.

For some ENFPs, relationships can be seriously tested by their short attention spans and emotional needs. They are easily intrigued and distracted by new friends and acquaintances, forgetting their older and more familiar emotional ties for long stretches at a time. And the less mature ENFP may need to feel they’re the constant center of attention, to confirm their image of themselves as a wonderful and fascinating person.

In the workplace, ENFPs are pleasant and friendly, and interact in a positive and creative manner with both their co-workers and the public. ENFPs are also a major asset in brainstorming sessions; follow-through on projects can be a problem, however. ENFPs do get distracted, especially if another interesting issue comes along. They also tend towards procrastination, and dislike performing small, uninteresting tasks. ENFPs are most productive when working in a group with a few Js to handle the details and the deadlines.

Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

ENFPs are friendly folks. Most are really enjoyable people. Some of the most soft-hearted people are ENFPs.

ENFPs have what some call a "silly switch." They can be intellectual, serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance, they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD, the scourge of the swimming pool, ticklers par excellence. Som etimes they may even appear intoxicated when the "switch" is flipped.

One study has shown that ENFPs are significantly overrepresented in psychodrama. Most have a natural propensity for role-playing and acting.

ENFPs like to tell funny stories, especially about their friends. This penchant may be why many are attracted to journalism. I kid one of my ENFP friends that if I want the sixth fleet to know something, I'll just tell him.

ENFPs are global learners. Close enough is satisfactory to the ENFP, which may unnerve more precise thinking types, especially with such things as piano practice ("three quarter notes or four ... what's the difference?") Amazingly, some ENFPs are adept at exacting disciplines such as mathematics.
Friends are what life is about to ENFPs, more so even than the other NFs. They hold up their end of the relationship, sometimes being victimized by less caring individuals. ENFPs are energized by being around people. Some have real difficulty being alone , especially on a regular basis.

One ENFP colleague, a social worker, had such tremendous interpersonal skills that she put her interviewers at ease during her own job interview. She had the ability to make strangers feel like old friends.

ENFPs sometimes can be blindsided by their secondary Feeling function. Hasty decisions based on deeply felt values may boil over with unpredictable results. More than one ENFP has abruptly quit a job in such a moment.

Functional Analysis:

Extraverted iNtuition

The physical world, both geos and kosmos, is the ENFP's primary source of information. Rather than sensing things as they are, dominant intuition is sensitive to things as they might be. These extraverted intuitives are most adept with patterns and connections. Their natural inclination is toward relationships, especially among people or living things. Intuition leans heavily on feeling for meaning and focus. Its best patterns reflect the interesting points of people, giving rise to caricatures of manner, speech and expression.

Introverted Feeling

Auxiliary feeling is nonverbally implied more often than it is openly expressed. When expressed, this logic has an aura of romance and purity that may seem out of place in this flawed, imperfect world. In its own defense, feeling judgement frequently and fleetly gives way to humor. ENFPs who publicize their feelings too often may put off some of the crowd of friends they naturally attract.

Extraverted Thinking

Thinking, the process which runs to impersonal conclusions, holds the extraverted tertiary position. Used on an occasional basis, ENFPs may benefit greatly from this ability. Less mature and lacking the polish of higher order functions, Thinking is not well suited to be used as a prominent function. As with other FP types, the ENFP unwary of Thinking's limitations may find themselves most positively mistaken.

Introverted Sensing

Sensing, the least discernible ENFP function, resides in the inner world where reality is reduced to symbols and icons--ideas representing essences of external realities. Under the influence of the ever-present intuition, the ENFP's sensory perceptions are in danger of being replaced by hypothetical data consistent with pattern and paradigm. When it is protected and nourished, introverted sensing provides information about the fixed. From such firm anchoring ENFPs are best equipped to launch into thousands of plausibilities and curiosities yet to be imagined.

Perhaps the combination of introverted Feeling and childlike introverted Sensing is responsible for the silent pull of ENFPs to the wishes of parents, authority figures and friends. Or perhaps it's the predominance of indecisive intuition in combination with the ambiguity of secondary Fi and tertiary Te that induces these kind souls to capitulate even life-affecting decisions. Whatever the dynamic, ENFPs are strongly influenced by the opinions of their friends.


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Friday, April 8, 2011

心中的感动

************************感觉篇************************

07/04/2011 12.00pm 在DK3,
Professional II 成绩揭晓的大日子终于到了!
等待成绩公布的这段日子,
我都会尽量转移思绪以平伏那忐忑不安的心。

大概12.20pm ,Timbalan Dekan Akademik (TDA) 开始念及格考生的名字了。。。
心情:紧张 + 期盼 + 为及格的朋友们感到高兴
从A到Y,TDA 大概念了200个名字,
听着大家的名字一一被念,朋友们都顺利过关了!
好希望,真的好希望可以和朋友们一起上第四年!
当TDA 开始念Y字母开头的名字时,
心跳加速,闭上双眼,期许我也能和大家一起顺利过关!

终于听到我的名字了!我及格了!
我又哭了!为喜而泣!
原来,我也能做到的!
这一路来的努力,走过的艰辛,终于换来成功的果实了!
心中涌起的那份感动,无法以言语表达,
化成泪水,湿了眼眶,泪流直下,
感觉。。。
尤如走过那充满荆棘的道路,
抵达那片绿幽幽的草地,
躺在那舒适的地上呼吸那大自然的空气,
福的喜悦


************************感恩篇************************


Study Week和考试这段时间,
很庆幸,
有着一班对我不离不弃的好姐妹,
一些愿意和我讨论功课,分享信息、互相扶持的朋友,
学长学姐们的指导和鼓励,
教授们的推动力,
当然少不了,
给我带来心灵支持的家人和朋友,
让我心灵满满的,
洋溢着那从心而发的喜悦!


感恩,
一切人、事、物让我能那么快乐度过这难熬的日子!


************************回忆篇************************


时光飞逝,
转眼,三年的医学生涯就这样告一段落了。
回首一望,
经历了不少酸甜苦辣,
回忆过去,即使苦乐参拌,感觉还是甜甜的。。。


第一年,单纯


傻呼呼地过了。。。
刚上大学,还察觉不到当大学生的大转变,
童心未泯,还是和大家一起打闹,还迷上了上线游戏,
既使成绩不怎么好,还是无忧无滤地度过了开心的日子。。。


离乡背井到这陌生的土地念书,
心中一直想在象牙塔寻觅着那份“家”的归宿感。。。
踊跃地参与各项活动,
参加佛学会的各大小活动之余,还鸡手鸭脚地去学武术“强身健体”呢!


筹办活动的前序,
歌艺不怎么样的我第一次在中秋晚会“登台献唱”,
第一次和学长学姐们筹办的第一个大型活动新春晚会,
和一班爱唱歌的大伙儿,天天练唱,还无聊到用童谣和流行歌开声,
又一段快乐的日子!
在Dewan Utama大舞台上高歌的光挥时刻,
享受舞台的感觉仍悠新。。。


第二年,转变


脱蛹而出的蝴蝶,成长的变。。。
寻找学业和活动的平衡点,
才发现,筹办活动的艰辛。
原来,每个活动的背后需要那么多的汗水和用心。
当上了佛学会副秘书,在佛学会各大活动尝试各式的岗位,
CONVEX,新春晚会,CFCS进Kampung,
大学的生活顿时染上了多种色彩,闪亮的,暗沉的,柔和的。
疲惫但充实的一年。
我学了很多,
待人处事,个人的心灵成长和内涵增值。
屡次的打击和挫折,让我长大了不少,
亦教会了我从多个角度看事情。
一种不一样的体会。。。


第三年,迷惘


卸下筹办活动的重任,回到悠闲的日子。
找着正确的学习方法,想把学业拉回正轨。
很庆幸,能够得到朋友和学长学姐们的指导。
人际关系上,亮黄灯了。。。
路遥知马力,日久见人心,
终于认清了可以深交和该提防的朋友,
原以为只要存好心,讲好话,行好事就是对的,
慌悟当好人不易,好事难做,
自己当了不少“烂好人”,
人际关系,还真是一门深奥的学问啊!
或许,脑袋不需要为活动烦恼,太空闲了,爱胡思乱想,
一度情绪起伏不定,差点把朋友吓坏了。
经一事,长一智,绪管理是很重要的,关键所在是要保持心境开朗!
一个总结,与大家共勉之,
迷惘的时候,只要抱着希望,便能看到暑光,走出困境了!


************************展望篇************************


今年九月即将进入医学生涯的另一段落了,是Clinical Phase。
很侥幸地,PRO II及格了,能够升上第四年。
五个月的假期,是个难得的机会,
让我好好充实自己,迎接第四年医学生涯的种种挑战。
大家一起努力吧!


*~~~丽颖,加油哦!^^~~~*

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Gratitude to my true friends

What does 'True friends' mean to you?
To me,it could be this simple...

T-Tolerating with our weaknesses
R-Ready to help us when we are in need
U-Understand our feelings and conditions
E-Encouraging us when we need supports

F-Forgiving our mistakes
R-Really concern about us wholeheartedly
I-Influence us towards the good side,helping us in improving ourself
E-Enhance the colours of our lives
N-Never abandon us no matter how weak we are
D-Dealing with challenges we faced together with us
S-Sharing happiness and sadness with us

'True friends' is a simple word but with deep meaning. Well,it's not easy to be described in words. You will know when you meet one.

I am glad to be able to meet up some true friends! They had brighten my life! I am really happy to be so lucky! Thanks for everything,my true friends! ^^

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

从心出发

看回以前写的blog,
发现以前的我比现在乐观多了!
怀念那个总会抱着正面的想法,坚信阳光总在风雨后的丽颖!
那时候的我,不论发生什么事,都会转角度看事情,让生活变得更开心。
时而还给有需要的人一些正能量,让他们更勇敢地走下去!

那个我,去了哪儿呢?
迷路了,好像不见了好一段时间了。。

刚刚读了些充满正能量的blog,
看见了自己往往会忽略的观点,学了很多。。
天下不如意之事十之八九,
要继续活在挫败中吗?不行动去纠正错误,问题只会变得更大。
自怨自哀,问题是不会解决的,要鼓起那份行动力,去想办法补救!

累了,痛了,歇一歇,再从心出发吧!
让正能量引领我们寻找那份从内心发出的喜悦吧!
May you always be well and happy! 

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Perception and Attention in Real Life

Learned about Perception and Attention today. Relating it to the real life... It explains how we can easily detect someone that's special to us in the crowd and take his/her presence as fate. ^^

Well, there are 5 functions of perceptual system: Attention, Localization, Recognition, Abstraction, Constancy.

1. Attention: Process of screening incoming stimuli
We meet up with many people everyday. (Attention: Process of screening incoming stimuli) We tend to pay more attention to people that is special to us while less on the passer-by. (Selective attention : Attending to some stimuli while ignoring others) As we meet up with the special ones, we will put our eyes on the person more. even stare at the person longer than a passer-by. (Eye fixation : A brief period which the eyes are relatively stationary.)

2. Localization : Process determining where the object is
As we look at the special ones to us, we'll see the person clearer and other people in his surrounding become more blur as background. (Figure-Ground Relationship: Figure=object; surrounding:background) Thus, we are able to detect easily the location of the person even he/she is surrounding by lots of people.
3. Recognition : Binding together various features associated with an object
We would bind the features on the person, such as a tall and fit figure, tall nose bridge, pretty eyes etc. If we failed to recognized the person's face, it's called prosopagnosis (Prosopagnosis : Selective inability to recognize faces, although other visual objects may be correctly identified)

4. Abstraction : Process converting the raw sensory information acquired by sensory information acquired by the sense organs into abstract categories that are pre-stored in memory
We would make an abstract 'him/her' into our mind, a brief figure of him/her. The one which appears in our mind when we are thinking of the special ones.

5. Constancy: Brain's ability to maintain a perception of the underlying physical characteristics of an object despite changes in sensory manifestation.
No matter he/she is surrounded by people less/more outstanding than him/her, he/she is still outstanding to you. He/she is who he/she is.

Sometimes, our defense mechanism will also be activated when we meet the special ones to us. The person will look nearly perfect in our eyes. (Idealization : Defense mechanism in which a person conciously or usually unconsiously overestimates an attribute or admirable qualities of another and the underestimation of their limitations)

May everyone of us can meet up the special one who is the right one for us... ^^

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Warmth In the Cold


It is raining season in Kelantan. The weather is so cold... Liking the cold breeze and refreshing environment brought by the rain. The cold breeze is now playing a role as my free air conditioner in my room. So nice... ^^

Nevertheless, it would be nicer to be able feel the warmth in the cold. If there's a hot baked Portugese tart, hot BBQ sweet potato or hot french fries now, it would be really warm! Suddenly, I become so craving for the warm food so much... It's so lovely to be able to have hot junk food in this very cold night. ^^
Anyway, it's impossible to get those hot stuff now. Just imagining the happiness to have those in front of me right now. It's so heartwarming... Well,what I can do now to stop the cravings? Have a hot chocolate milk + classical music to suppress my thought. Even though it's not as warm as them, still, it's enjoyable and relaxing though...
In this cold weather, what's the thing that comes into your mind? Are you enjoying the warmth in the cold now?

Friday, December 3, 2010

Learning From A Psychologist

Reviewing my old posts, found that it's kind of aggressive and emotionally unstable. Hmm...those were the stories past few days with the negative thoughts in my mind. Now,I feel much better dy. Thanks for the concerns ya! I appreciated that. ^^

Realized lots of things these few days. We couldn't have found someone that can understand us 100% coz everyone is unique in this world. So, that's why communication play an important role in our life. We couldn't control how others act but we can control what we think and feel.

A psychologist told me, our emotions wouldn't be affected by others if we do not allow others to affect us. She asked me to think about it. Well, what you understand by this phrase? From what I've learnt in a talk, we can actually control our own emotion and feeling. We all had our own key of happiness. We used to let others keep it for us unconsciously. Thus,others can affect our feelings. For instance, a wife is unhappy because her husband went to outstation for work purposes. The wife felt unhappy coz she let her husband to keep her key of happiness. If she holds her own key, she'll be happy on what she's doing, and not being affected much no matter what others do. I should have learnt to keep my own key and not letting others to keep it for me. ^^

Also, she taught me to be assertive. What's assertive? Previously, I got a misconception on it, thinking that it's simply rejection on others,say 'No' strongly. Due to my misconception,I acted wrongly causing my aggressive acts. Sorry for those being hurt by these. Now, I know what assertive is... From Dorland's medical dictionary, Assertiveness means a form of behavior characterized by a confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof; this affirms the person's rights or point of view without either aggressively threatening the rights of another (assuming a position of dominance) or submissively permitting another to ignore or deny one's rights or point of view. We have our own rights. I have my right to express my feelings, you have your right whether to read or not to read these. ^^

Well, to be assertive, I need to be a decisive and confident person. It's time consuming to learn it, but without trying, I would never get to learnt it. So, I am ready to fall again in order to learn to make a good decision with confidence. I do need help in this. As Dr mentioned last time, actually normal people can go for psychotherapy if they want to know better and improve themselves. I would give it a try even it sounds like I'm wasting both therapist's and my time. No matter what, I wouldn't mind how people look at me for getting psychotherapy, coz I have my right doing things I want. Stigmatize on people receiving therapy? So what? They'll be a better person after therapy, could even be better than those who got a stigma on it. I believe it can make me better rather than doing nothing. Hope I can get to be a better person in cognitive behavioral therapy coming soon! All the best! ^^